Wow, you’re still really having a hard time with that aren’t you…
a paraphrased comment from a close friend
in reference to losing my gram the year before.

How it felt on the receiving end…
Wow, you still haven’t gotten over that yet?!?  
What’s your problem?
It’s been a year already.

I have not mentioned my gram
to her since.
I don’t want to feel stupid
and weak
like that again.



[Note from Lainie:
it’s hard to even write this one because I don’t want it to come across in a mean or vindictive way.  I have great friends.  To me, this piece says a lot about the impact of our words regardless of intention.  I was not in a good space.  I was sharing something really personal with her and this is how the comment felt to me.]